FAQs for the 50 Shades Series
We have gotten a few recurring questions about the upcoming series 50 Shades of Gray: The Black and White on Sexual Issues. I wanted to take a minute and answer them for you. Here they are:
1. How graphic and in depth are you going to go into these topics?
I promise I will only use terms and language that is necessary to clearly communicate the truth concerning each of these topics. I also promise that, as always, I will NOT use any words simply for “shock value”. If there is a way to communicate something in a less graphic way I will do my best to communicate it accordingly. Honestly, I don’t foresee these messages containing language that is very different from a typical Sunday at Connection Church. However, I will not dance around the topics that need to be discussed and waste this opportunity to clearly communicate God’s Word in regards to these topics.
We will provide an alternative environment for our middle schoolers if parents feel their children aren’t ready for these messages. Middle schoolers who do not attend the services will have the opportunity to serve in the 1st – 5th grade area. They will get to help lead games and facilitate lessons. In doing so they will get to fulfill our third core value, serve! You know your children better than we do and you know what they are ready for. With that in mind we will trust you to prayerfully make the best decisions in regards to your children. If you plan to have your middle schooler skip the services and serve in the Konnection Kids area please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org so we can plan accordingly.
I do recommend that no one under 6th grade stay in the service during this series or any other series. We provide excellent environments for babies through 5th grade each and every week. We strongly encourage you to take advantage of this opportunity. It will be the best environment for your child to learn about Jesus.
2. Will these topics put thoughts/images in my child’s mind? Will it make he/she curious?
Well, I won’t be describing pornographic scenes if that’s what you mean! I will not paint graphic pictures of sex scenes. That would be pornography! I will define pornography both secularly and biblically. We will also look at why it is so rampant in our culture and around the world, who it effects and how it effects them, and the Good News of how we can be set free from it.
As far as the curiosity question goes…Honestly, unless you live in a cave your middle schooler and/or high schooler is already curious. I know, we as parents like to think that they aren’t but unfortunately the truth is that the average age boys are exposed to internet pornography is 11.4! Most people recommend talking to your children about the dangers of pornography by the age of 10! Is that the way it should be? NO! It’s not right! But it is reality. I’d much rather them hear about the wake of destruction pornography leaves and what God says about it through biblical truth spoken in church rather than a half informed 12 year old in the P.E. locker room.
3. What videos /testimonies will be shown?
We will not show graphic videos of pornography or abortion. There will be testimony videos but they are not graphic in nature.
4. Will these topics cause separation in the church and/or separation among other people?
I am honestly a little amazed at how quickly people who have seen our heart for the lost and hurting can so quickly turn and think that we would now look for an opportunity to hurt people and cause division. The gospel is Good News for sinners! That includes all of us! That is what we will proclaim. We WILL be true to scripture but scripture wouldn’t call the message of Jesus Good News if it weren’t.
Now. Let’s look at the reality of the situation. No matter what I say 50% of you are going to be critical one way or another. I’m not being critical of you. I’ve just been doing this long enough now to know this is true. Just thinking about the topics we will be discussing I know that approximately half of you will say, “He was too liberal!” The other half will say, “He was too conservative!” My goal is to present, as clearly as I can with God’s help, what the scriptures teach us. This actually ties into my answer to the next question…#5
5. Are you doing these topics to get more people to come to your church?
Truthfully, when I read this question I go from laughing to wanting throw something! It makes me somewhat irritated because my heart and the heart of the church is being brought into question. I really believe the fruit of the ministry that Jesus has given us has spoken to the fact that this question does NOT reflect our heart. We didn’t set out to simply grow a large church. We set out to reach people for Jesus. We have always known, and will always seek to remember, that unless the Lord builds the house the laborers labor in vain.
It is true that we have promoted this series more than any other in the 3.5 years Connection Church has been in existence. Why? Because these topics are destroying lives as they lurk in the darkness and we need to shine light on them with the Good News of Jesus. In some instances the truth needs to shine light on our destructive decisions and bring hope to broken people. In other instances it needs to shine light on the errors we’ve made as the church and shape us more into the hope of the world Jesus died for us to be.
This question also makes me laugh a little because I can assure you that I didn’t just choose to talk about these issues. Believe it or not I don’t wake up every morning thinking of ways to tick ½ of Bulloch County off. As much as any series we have ever done I am convinced that this series came from the heart of God. We actually had the entire fall planned before God put this on my heart. We scrapped what needed to be scrapped in order to be obedient.
Also, If I were trying to draw and keep a crowd do you really think I would pick these four topics? If I were trying to draw and keep a crowd I’d just bring the circus to town. I honestly don’t know what the outcome of this series will be. What I do know is that I HAVE TO BE obedient to God and do what He says. If that means some leave so that one can be set free from the wounds in their hearts then so be it. Jesus never seemed to keep a crowd and He taught that He would leave the 99 to go after the 1. Maybe we, the church, need to come to terms with this reality and be willing to do whatever it takes to reach the lost. My heart is not to hurt anyone but to bring them face to face with the reality of the One who can heal the hurts. Whatever the outcome of this series and Connection Church may be, my prayer is simply this, “Lord, your will be done!”
I really do appreciate the questions. I am always open to those who seek understanding of what we do and why we do it.
Hey Connection…HEART AND SOUL!